How to Have a Hard Conversation

by Frank A. Ives — fictional author, real advice

About 1 hour70 pages15 chaptersPDF + EPUB$4.99

“The conversation you keep avoiding is not getting easier. It is getting heavier. Put it down by having it.”

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FRANKLYcontents · 15 chapters

What's inside

Fifteen chapters. One subject.
No wasted pages.

01The Conversation You're Avoiding Is Already Happeningp. 3
02Know What You Want Before You Startp. 9
03Choose the Right Time and Placep. 14
04Lead With What You Feel, Not What They Didp. 19
05Listen Like You Mean It. Not Like You're Waitingp. 24
06p. 29
07p. 34
08p. 39
09p. 43
10p. 47
11p. 51
12p. 55
13p. 59
14p. 63
15p. 67

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FRANKLYread before you buy

A taste of Frank

This is how he writes.

The hard truth · chapter 1

The silence you are maintaining is not neutral. It is active. Every day you choose not to say the thing, you are choosing the quiet, destructive version of the conversation over the direct, productive one. You think you are protecting the relationship by not bringing it up. You are damaging it by not resolving it. The conversation is happening either way. You are simply choosing which version to have.

“The conversation you keep avoiding is not getting easier. It is getting heavier. Put it down by having it.”

A page from How to Have a Hard Conversation, actual size

the book is 70 pages. this is one of them.

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FRANKLYwhat changes · one hour later

The outcome

One hour. Here's what's
different after.

You'll stop calling it "not the right time" and start recognising it for what it is: the wrong choice, made daily.
You'll walk in knowing what you actually want — not just what you're upset about. That difference decides whether the conversation goes anywhere.
You'll say what you feel instead of what they did. One lands. The other starts an argument.
You'll know what to do when it goes wrong in the room — because it will, and having a chapter for that is worth more than pretending it won't. There's a chapter for that. It's worth more than pretending it won't happen.
You'll feel the specific weight lift that only lifts when you finally say the thing.

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FRANKLYadvance readers · pre-release

From early readers

Pre-release. Actual words.

“I bought it on a Tuesday. Had the conversation on a Thursday. It went better than any hard conversation I've ever had.”
— pre-release tester

“Chapter 1 alone is worth it. 'The silence you're maintaining is not neutral.' I've thought about that sentence every day since.”
— pre-release tester